Thoughtfulness Practices

Ken Saunders
5 min readDec 13, 2018

When I was growing up, I was taught to be “mindful” and considerate of others around me. For me, it was just an obvious extension of the Golden Rule. You treat others as you would want to be treated, EVEN if they didn’t treat you the same way. Personally, I took that as a challenge to be as kind, as considerate, as thoughtful of others as I would want them to be to me. Now, of course, I wasn’t and still aren’t, as successful in my day to day life as I would like to be. I can be short with people, as well as hurried and less than thoughtful. This value, this idea of Thoughtfullness I believe is needed more than ever in our world today. Too many times throughout the day I encounter people who are more interested in their point of view, of getting ahead, of being less than gracious yet wanting others to treat them far differently then they are willing to treat others. It’s a sad but true fact and in truth not isolated to American society or even any specific time. Some people have inherently been more self-centered. So with this in mind, I wanted to sketch out some practices as a reminder to myself and ideas for you, dear readers, that will make your day and encounters with others hopefully a happier and more uplifting experience.

What do I mean by thoughtfulness? Thoughtfulness means spending time putting yourself in other people’s shoes in other words, practicing empathy. It also means considering what is in the best interests of others. It means doing things make others feel good even on a small scale. You may be asking what’s in this whole idea for you? There are a lot of benefits first and foremost is the satisfaction of knowing you’re making the world a kinder place, a more thoughtful place and really isn’t that a world you’d rather live in? So without any delay here is a list of some daily practices you can incorporate into your life to practice Thoughtfullness on a regular basis.

1. Do Things you don’t want to do

As I mentioned before practicing thoughtfulness means doing those things you may not want to do. Some examples are going along with a spouse, friend whoever to that event you’d rather not go to, and here’s the key, not say anything, no complaining. Go looking with the expectation that you will get something good out of the experience. There are countless opportunities to do those things for friends, loved ones, your…

Ken Saunders

Born in New York, schooled in the Berkshires, Became an adult in L.A., found my Soul in Seattle. Been writing & drinking copious amounts of coffee since 2012.